Usually the internet is filled with cat videos, vines and stories about celebrities, but every so often you stumble across something great. Recently I read something that’s really stayed with me, so I thought I’d share it with you for a bit of #theorythursday!
“You are an average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
Jim Rohn, a business philosopher, calls this your ‘Circle of Influence’ and it really got me thinking. His theory is that these five people, their ideas and behaviours influence the way you live your life and the decisions you make. Think about it for a minute and you’ll soon realise that other people’s attitudes really do affect you.
I really had to think about who my circle of influence is, but here’s what I realised:
- My mum/family
- My PT
So who are these people and how have they affected my life?
I have grouped my mum and family as one, purely because they are a similar and steady influence. They have the biggest impact on me without a doubt, and still to this day, even as an independent, grown woman (in theory!) I still think about what my mum would say before making any big decisions. It’s more a case for me of WWMD instead of WWJD! I know that she/they would always have my best interests at heart, and would make sensible decisions based on experience and fact.
Next is my two best friends, grouped together because although they’re quite different, we are a three and know each other ridiculously well. They influence me as we’re all the same age, in the same stages of life and all experiencing the same things, so an experience for one becomes a learning opportunity for all of us.
Jess, AKA the better half of this blogging duo! We have been best friends for many years, and again we are navigating the lessons of our early 20s together as best we can! Whilst in some ways we’re freakishly similar, we also have enough of a different outlook on things that we can be useful contrasting opinions for each other, and she’s definitely become a big influence as I get more and more into the world of fitness.
Next is my colleague Sarah, who again is a great friend. We have very different outlooks of life and the situations in it, and her blunt, no nonsense approach has made me see things differently, and be bolder in going after what I want.
Lastly is my PT. I would say my circle of influence hasn’t really changed much in the last 5 years, so in some ways he has been the biggest influence in terms of change. His influence on me was not only as a PT, but for the simple fact that he has an incredibly positive attitude and way of looking at things. He made me really see the power of ‘PMA’ (positive mental attitude) and how if you look at things in a positive light, and see how YOU can make a positive change to you and the people around you, you will be so much happier!
So who’s in your circle? Are they a positive or negative influence? How is your way of doing things shaped by their opinions and feelings?
If someone is a negative influence and you don’t agree with their outlook, but you’re still finding your decision making affected by them, perhaps it’s time to realise that and start to think more about what YOU want.
Anyway, certainly food for thought!